When I come home, I don't necessarily want to be alone, I just need to do things that will calm or recharge me instead of things that will tire me out more. And I learned how freeing that is.
As a man who married a non-Mormon woman, my story has a slightly different view point, but it comes down to essentially the same principles.
Sometimes not even a quick text most of the time. Mormons follow the law of Chastity; they believe that the intimate act of lovemaking must be saved for after marriage.