Science is currently trying to figure out why so-called prostate orgasms feel so intense—but, frankly, the why is unimportant. So, I talked with Sex and Relationships coach Dr. Charlie Glickman, PhD, who literally wrote the book on prostate pleasure to explain just how to enjoy this under-appreciated erogenous zone. Glickman's first point? Plus, porn stars are people who are likely having anal sex multiple times a week. For the best chance at a life-changing, earth-quaking orgasm, he also recommends—seriously, listen to this—experimenting with butt play solo at first. The second is that you can stop immediately once something becomes painful or uncomfortable.
What do Lady Gaga, platform sneakers, and anal sex have in common? They're all having a moment. This morning, in the span of one hour, Truffle Butter played at my fave coffee shop if you don't know what that has to do with anal, two words: Urban Dictionary , an email about the launch of a new butt plug popped into my inbox, and my pal texted to ask which position—missionary or doggy—was a better position for first-time anal sex. And, to be fair, it can be kind of intimidating. To replace some of that confusion with clarity, read on for tips and tricks on how to prepare for anal sex that will make it as pleasurable, safe, clean, and orgasmic as possible.
Perineal massage may help you avoid pain and tears to your perineum during childbirth. One of the many mysteries around childbirth is: How will I push something the size of a small watermelon out of my body without breaking into two? The short answer is, your body can do miraculous things. One way or another, you will deliver that beautiful baby of yours. But it can come at a cost. I got a a second-degree tear during my first childbirth. Tearing is fairly common, especially among first-time moms. Is it possible to avoid tearing or episiotomy? Is there a way to prepare your body for that great big stretch during childbirth? But not all tears are the same.
Pop quiz! Lots of women who've been there and done that say it's a welcome addition to their sexual repertoire. But just like you must walk before you can run, you must have some sort of anal foreplay before you go for the full monty of anal sex.