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And you must be honest in your conversation with God about it. My parents, siblings and grandparents are all active members; as am I.
By those standards, I was a failure, my husband wasn't "good enough" - and my daughter had ambitious real goals that required a lot of time and effort. But my relationship with him is worth this small sacrifice.
The most important thing is an open dialogue, as you say, and utmost respect for the other person.